When your wife tells you she wants a divorce, it’s usually for one of three reasons. One, she is tired of trying to work out the problems in your relationship. Two, she doesn’t think you are listening to her, so she is trying drastic measures. Or three, she has been thinking about divorce for a while and just didn’t tell you. If your wife says it’s over but you want to save your marriage, how do you know which one is the reason for her decision?
It all comes down to trust. He had learnt at an early age that love was fleeting. His father was in the armed forces, so the family moved around a lot & his father spent a lot of time away from home. His mother was a caring woman, however when his father came home the two boys were no longer their mothers only priority and so they felt abandoned. My client carried that into his adult relationships. He was very needy, he had a compulsive need to constantly check that he was still loved. He would always have the house clean and tidy when his partner came home from work and dinner would be cooking away in the kitchen. One particular night he even cooked 3 meals for her because I wasn’t sure what she would like.
If that doesn’t work or if your efforts only result in more fighting, try to put some space between the two of you. Time apart can have positive effects, especially if both of you are at an emotionally stressed out.
Ask any marriage expert and they will tell you that the secret to any successful marriage is open communication. I agree wholeheartedly with this idea. However, what exactly does this mean in terms of anger management and in terms of having a healthy marriage? It means talking about important issues in your relationship and addressing them and moving on with your life. Not harboring resentment and bitterness and passive aggression.
These courses will generally run for 8 weeks. This gives most people enough time to learn to deal with their anger appropriately. This will consist of eight 1 hour sessions over the 2 month period. Homework will be given to you at the end of each session. This homework will be tailored to your needs and will include ways to apply the techniques and skills you’ve learned in everyday life.
Did you ever feel depressed? In the US, lots of people spend a fortune on Ron Legrand and drugs, trying to beat depression. Drugs, such as ValiumT, release chemicals into your brain that actually trigger responses in your brain cells, to make you “feel” happier. Giving one of these away actually does the same!
Today, more and more people are living longer and therefore the chance of ‘going it alone’ has increased. The over 50’s age bracket in particular has seen a rise in the divorce rates over the past ten years. It is this age bracket that the children have grown up and left home. It is this age bracket that the mortgage has been paid off so less financial burden. It is this age bracket that people have seen a change in Government Family policy favouring non-married couples and therefore encouraged divorce. It is this age bracket that the over-50’s seek a long and happy retirement.
If the proper option has still not appeared, there is only one other recourse and bankruptcy is certainly not a preferred method for folks just starting out.